It’s coming to that time of year again when we start to reflect on how the last 10 months have played out, how we, our business or our careers have performed or where they have taken us?
And if you are like 93% of business owners and career professionals in the UK, you will be wondering what went wrong, where did we lose our focus, how can I ensure next year does not follow this same path?
You probably said the exact same thing last year, yet you find yourself is the same position again
Where did I go wrong?
“The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same.”
So what road did you decide to take?
You either never set any goals for the year or You failed to correctly set, define and follow your goals with consistency and focus
Now you may be reading this thinking, I tried my best (REALLY)?
Think about it, did you really try your best or were you just really busy taking action without actually knowing where you were heading, no defined destination or process?
You got stuck in your own action vortex, taking the same actions over and over again and getting the same results.
If you keep doing what you always did, you will keep getting what you always got.
We all try to do our best but without anything to focus our actions on, is like trying to shoot a target in the dark? Keep shooting and eventually, you may just hit something or you can turn on the bloody light.
If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals, you will lack focus and direction.
Goal setting not only allows you to take control of the direction your heading in; it also provides you with a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding or not.
What’s going well, what’s not going so well and what could I do better next week?
It’s the art of self-reflection!
So why are success and failure so similar? They both take motivation, effort, thought and action. The quality of actions you take will determine the results you get.
All success & failure starts with the mindset, without goals to help guide and direct your mind to what you want from your personal or professional life, you are leaving your success to chance.
Does success happen by chance, luck or coincidence?
Success never has and never will be by chance, luck or coincidence, all success happens specifically, by taken specific actions to get a specific set of results.
Setting clearly defined goals helps you create the motivation to keep going with consistency and focus
To accomplish your goals, however, you need to know how to set them. You can’t simply say, “I want this” and expect it to happen.
Goal setting is a process that starts with careful consideration of what you want to achieve, and ends with a lot of hard work and focus to actually achieving it.
In between, there are some very well-defined steps (detailed & defined plans or smaller goals) that transcend that specific goal. Knowing these steps will allow you to formulate goals that you can accomplish in small incremental steps, thus allowing you the feeling of achievement as you go along.
It’s hard to achieve our goals. More often than not, we fail to follow through. Either we lose focus, change our minds, or simply give up. For one reason or another, things get in the way, and our mentality shifts, life happens and we just stop trying.
We lose or motivation to keep going, the consistency to keep updating our progress.
You know the feeling, don’t you?
We’ve all failed to achieve one goal or another at some point in our lives. I know I’ve been there more times than I’d like to admit. But the thing that interests me most isn’t whether or not we’ve failed, it’s why we’ve failed and taken the appropriate action to ensure I change the actions to modify the results next time around.
When most people in our goals, we stop trying.
Why did we throw in that proverbial towel? What caused us to reach our breaking point? Did we clearly look at our tipping points and put a plan in place to counteract something we knew would be a challenge?
That’s the real power to correctly setting and defining your goals, we prepare for the what-if or buts, we build them into our clearly defined action plans
Often, we start out with focus and determination towards our goals. In the beginning, we’re excited about the change and doing something new, potentially making revolutionary advancements in our lives. But over time, that focus & determination wanes when we realise the hard work, guts, determination and life-changing difficulties that lie ahead in the wake of our biggest dreams.
“It’s in the want to we find the how-to”
Over time, we give up. We cave and call it quits. We fail to achieve our goals, not for lack of wanting or trying, but lack of not wanting or trying hard enough.
Whenever we want to achieve a goal as badly as we want to breathe the air in order to stay alive, that’s when we see things through.
“Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.”
When you focus on the goal, plan of action and take action you help redirect your subconscious mind on what you want and thus create your own opportunities.
Any goal that’s monumental enough to want to achieve, is going to be difficult.
Since so much of our behaviour on a daily basis is habit-driven, this makes sense. It’s also easy to understand why we revert back to our old ways.
For example, if we try to lose weight, we might give it all we think we’ve got for a number of weeks. But, then we hit that brick wall. We get frustrated and disappointed when things don’t happen right away.
We lose sight of what we want and why we wanted it, the need gets lost in the day to day grind of life.
So How do we push through the pain to reach our goals when they seem so far away?
- Keeping Focus
One of the reasons why we fail to achieve our goals is due to an overall loss of focus. It’s hard to stay laser-focused for a prolonged period of time. Even for people that are highly driven to succeed, losing focus is common. There are all sorts of interruptions in life that can aid in a loss of focus. Clearly, problems can and do arise often. BUT, there are a few ways we can direct our focus to ensure we stay on course.
- Having a defined plan of action
Every goal you set should have a detailed action plan, by Year, Quarter, Month, Week and by day (Your Daily High Payoff Activities).
You should have a list of actions you must take every day to ensure you stay on plan to achieve your goals.
- Ensure you have a strong enough reason for your goal.
Most people fail because they do it all wrong, or for all the wrong reasons and set themselves up for failure before they even start.
How did your goals, plans, and resolutions pan out so far this year?
When you set goals the wrong way, in that you don’t have strong enough reasons for wanting to achieve them or don’t know how to correctly set them, it’s a lot easier to lose sight of your goals, so your hopes and dreams go crashing out within weeks of setting them?
You can’t just say you want to succeed for want of money or a better car or a bigger house. Those are superficial reasons. You need a reason that goes deeper than that. Whenever you have a reason that’s as important as the air that you breathe, you’ll do what it takes to achieve your goals.
- What is it you want, why do you want it, then ask yourself “The five why’s”
Why do I want this, and keep asking yourself why for another 5 times and that will get to the real reason you want this particular goal and strengthen the opportunity that you take the appropriate action to achieve it?
- Create New Habits
Creating a new set of habits takes time, you can create a new habit by doing something over and over again consecutively for a period of up to 66 days, and then correctly setting yourself up for success becomes the norm
It doesn’t happen overnight. If you keep pushing, keep focus and learn to write your and define goals correctly you can and will see very quick results.
I know how difficult setting goals can be, I have been setting goals for other people, originations and businesses for years, the magic is to understand where you are starting from and what matters most to you.
Understand this: People don’t care about your goals, they only care about their own, so if your waiting for something to change you must be the one leading that change or nothing will change
If you really want to change your success habits you need to understand your motivational intelligence or your reason to keep going or not.
Motivational intelligence or Motivational mastery is the inner drivers that keep you moving forward and taking the actions to drive your success
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- Glasgow: 22nd November 2019
Nothing will change unless you change, nothing will get better unless you get better!
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